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Addiction and its origins

April 26, 2021 David
Love, Relationships, Limerence & Affair Recovery
Addiction and its origins
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Love, Relationships, Limerence & Affair Recovery
Addiction and its origins
Apr 26, 2021
David

Far more than a quest for pleasure, chronic substance use is the addicts attempt to escape from distress.
From a medical point of view addicts are self medicating conditions such as depression, anxiety, PTSD and ADHD and many other psychological conditions.
Addiction always originates in pain whether felt openly or hidden in the unconscious. Heroin and cocaine are powerful painkillers and also ease psychological discomfort.
One should never question why the addiction? but why the pain? when any behaviour becomes an addiction there's a need to ask "who is in charge here? The person or the behaviour? If it's the behaviour that become an obsession which puts it in charge of the person, this then becomes an addiction.
Addictions in general are more about the desire and the craving of the said object/drug of choice, not the possession and enjoyment of it. It is this relentless pursuit of the object which thrills and excites the addict. This reminds me of object relations in regards to the anxious ambivalent mother, there one moment gone the next, or good breast bad breast in Kline terms.
According to Gabor Mate's research, most hard core addicts come from abusive homes. When this research was done in the USA, these groups of addicts tell stories of pain upon pain, rape, beatings, humiliation, rejection, abandonment and so on.
We can feel for the suffering child yet fail to see the child in pain inside the adult who's soul is fragmented and isolated. Not all addicts and their addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma but there is a belief that addictive behaviours can all be traced back to a painful experience of which a hurt is at the centre.
The effects of early life stress or an adverse experience on the young psyche directly shapes both the psychology and the neuropsychology of addiction in the brain. It is the psychological isolation often felt when young which drives a person into addiction and this addiction then keeps them in that isolation. The drug becomes the higher placed value on their behaviours and motivations and it is this principle which hooks the person into believing the drug is worth more than anything else, including their true sense of self, and keeps them apart from human contact and the reality of living.
People with addictions grow up unable to have the capacity to be with their feelings and emotions as they have no internal structure strong enough to support them due to early life traumatic experiences. Addicts therefore do not wish to spend anytime alone with their thoughts of feelings, if they do they fall into the void or gap which is terrifying to the addict . This make them feel unsafe and vulnerable, unconsciously reminding them of said trauma as a child. For the addict the drug of choice provides a route to feeling alive and safe, if only temporary. It is the addict wanting to dull down their senses which is a consequence of an emotional malfunction not of their making. The substance of choice shuts down the internal feelings of pain and vulnerability. No one grows up wanting or choosing to become an addict. But it is this ability in the brain to shut down when pain becomes too much which protects the child and enables it to repress the painful Emotions and to continue to function and to survive.This however leads to dulling and blocking out the emotional awareness they would then of had.
Most people know it's better to feel than not to feel but with an addict it is just this feeling which they can't endure. Their emotional shutdown which protected them when young continues into adulthood making them empty and devoid of life. A drug of choice opens them up and gives them the capacity to engage with life while taking away the pain of living. A drug restores a sense of self and being that was repressed when young.
Many addicts going through recovery feel incomplete and incompetent without the drug of choice to prop them up. The drug has been used as a replacem

Show Notes

Far more than a quest for pleasure, chronic substance use is the addicts attempt to escape from distress.
From a medical point of view addicts are self medicating conditions such as depression, anxiety, PTSD and ADHD and many other psychological conditions.
Addiction always originates in pain whether felt openly or hidden in the unconscious. Heroin and cocaine are powerful painkillers and also ease psychological discomfort.
One should never question why the addiction? but why the pain? when any behaviour becomes an addiction there's a need to ask "who is in charge here? The person or the behaviour? If it's the behaviour that become an obsession which puts it in charge of the person, this then becomes an addiction.
Addictions in general are more about the desire and the craving of the said object/drug of choice, not the possession and enjoyment of it. It is this relentless pursuit of the object which thrills and excites the addict. This reminds me of object relations in regards to the anxious ambivalent mother, there one moment gone the next, or good breast bad breast in Kline terms.
According to Gabor Mate's research, most hard core addicts come from abusive homes. When this research was done in the USA, these groups of addicts tell stories of pain upon pain, rape, beatings, humiliation, rejection, abandonment and so on.
We can feel for the suffering child yet fail to see the child in pain inside the adult who's soul is fragmented and isolated. Not all addicts and their addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma but there is a belief that addictive behaviours can all be traced back to a painful experience of which a hurt is at the centre.
The effects of early life stress or an adverse experience on the young psyche directly shapes both the psychology and the neuropsychology of addiction in the brain. It is the psychological isolation often felt when young which drives a person into addiction and this addiction then keeps them in that isolation. The drug becomes the higher placed value on their behaviours and motivations and it is this principle which hooks the person into believing the drug is worth more than anything else, including their true sense of self, and keeps them apart from human contact and the reality of living.
People with addictions grow up unable to have the capacity to be with their feelings and emotions as they have no internal structure strong enough to support them due to early life traumatic experiences. Addicts therefore do not wish to spend anytime alone with their thoughts of feelings, if they do they fall into the void or gap which is terrifying to the addict . This make them feel unsafe and vulnerable, unconsciously reminding them of said trauma as a child. For the addict the drug of choice provides a route to feeling alive and safe, if only temporary. It is the addict wanting to dull down their senses which is a consequence of an emotional malfunction not of their making. The substance of choice shuts down the internal feelings of pain and vulnerability. No one grows up wanting or choosing to become an addict. But it is this ability in the brain to shut down when pain becomes too much which protects the child and enables it to repress the painful Emotions and to continue to function and to survive.This however leads to dulling and blocking out the emotional awareness they would then of had.
Most people know it's better to feel than not to feel but with an addict it is just this feeling which they can't endure. Their emotional shutdown which protected them when young continues into adulthood making them empty and devoid of life. A drug of choice opens them up and gives them the capacity to engage with life while taking away the pain of living. A drug restores a sense of self and being that was repressed when young.
Many addicts going through recovery feel incomplete and incompetent without the drug of choice to prop them up. The drug has been used as a replacem